Just Getting Started

I am 31 years old, 1 year, 4 months into my 2nd marriage, I have a 9 year old that will be 10 on March 14th, I have an established career, work from home, own my home and I am 9 1/4 months (37 weeks) pregnant today. It is so interesting that after so many things have been established in my life, I only just feel like things are just getting started!

My name is Alice Brown. I am not too complicated of a person, at least I try not to be hard to figure out. Sometimes I think people make it harder than it really needs to be. I will pretty much tell you anything about me or how I feel about anything, if you ask....sometimes even if you don't....heh!

I have started this blog just because I wanted to start documenting my life. The awesome, not so awesome and day to day changes that have and will continue to take place in my life. I am not a writer, in fact my spelling and editing stink! I just hope that you can look past all of that and enjoy, relate, comment, sympathize, argue (nicely), or share you views of what I choose to share with you!

I will start by introducing my family....

Calvin, Calvin , Calvin....what can I say?!?! Well this boy never ceases to amaze me. He is an old soul with many wise words. He always has a very creative input to any situation. There is not a day that goes by where I don't think of how blessed I am to have such a wonderful child. I do not want to rush him into growing up but I do often wonder what he will be like as a teenager or adult. Since Calvin was born I have tried to take a balanced approach to raising him. Some people may see it as an alternative approach, mixed with some conservative values. My new husband (who you will meet later) and I like to think that we are doing the right thing by how we are raising our child. We believe in today's world you have to prepare your child a little more than people used to. As my mom said today, when she was growing up, learning of sex, birthing, or what was going on with your own body was hush, hush!

I have to say that Calvin knows more about sex, birthing (due to our family approach to the birth of his brother) and his own body than most kids his age do...I might even say than some adults. There two things I can be confident of in our approach to raising and teaching Calvin; 1. That he has learned the right thing about these topics and not gathered bits and pieces from other kids in his life. 2. That he has a respect for all of it, in addition to girls/women in his life and how to look at them as individuals, not objects.

He is such a beautiful child with so much to offer. I feel so blessed to have a child with such a loving, creative, passionate, and eager to please spirit!

Donald, our newest addition to our family is the love of my life. I have never meet a man I am more passionate about. He is a beautiful man! He came into my life pretty unexpectedly. No I did not fall in love with him the first time I saw him. I was definitely attracted to him and so very curious but it took time. I had not planned to ever be married again, let alone be interested in a man that was younger than I. Donald is 6 years younger than I am. This went against everything rule I set for myself when it came to dating.

There was something about him that made me give him a second thought. Don't get me wrong, it was not an easy decision. I had a child to be concerned with and raise. I did not need another and Donald was not out of that "stay up all night, drinking, smoking, sleep all day or at least until you had to be at work" phase when we started dating. I knew he offered more though. It came to a point where we were debating being serious or moving on. We had an argument where he said he could leave at anytime (which I already knew). Every single mom (let alone every woman) already knows this. I looked at him and calmly said "Ok, I understand but first I want you to understand something." I then gave him an choice. I told him that I did not need him to make it through life, to provide a roof over my head, I had already done that! I did not need him to keep going and be happy....but that I chose him. That I choose to have him in my life if he so chooses to stay. I explained that I made the conscious decision to love him with all my heart. I then asked if he still planned on leaving or if he would like to stay. He thought things through and chose to stay. Not only did he stay but from that moment on he made a conscious effort in both mine and Calvin's life, more so than any man had ever done. We dated for a year and a half before he asked me to marry him. Two weeks after we married Calvin came to me and said he wanted to call Donald "dad". That is not a name just given to a man who marries a single mom, it is a name that is earned.

I have gained more respect for him than I had ever gained for any man, including my own father. He restored my hope in how men can turn out. Because of Donald, I have faced a number of issues in my own life that I could not do alone. I like to think he has faced some of his since we have been together. It is something we have taken on together. He is my best friend and confidante.

As of now, we are working on only our 2nd year of this marriage and I feel like it has been at least five. I mean five years in a good way! I feel like we all just fit so well together. It has been a hard first year but one I would not have traded for the world. The three of us just work, we fit well together. I can not wait to see what Baby Brown contributes to our lives as a family. Even in the womb he has already contributed so much. He is such a major part of our lives.

I feel so blessed!

Much Love! I hope to see you back here again!

Alice Brown